tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6909245715081220170.post1124841470751534270..comments2023-07-05T07:00:50.335-05:00Comments on this is real life.: babies and Oprah...hear me out okay?Carahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00497478399767405938noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6909245715081220170.post-9345493952149801592008-07-30T18:36:00.000-05:002008-07-30T18:36:00.000-05:00I know a woman who has been a surrogate mother thr...I know a woman who has been a surrogate mother three times. She's provided a service for a family in need. It was a business transaction, that's it. <BR/><BR/>Gotta agree wtih Jen on this one - to each his/her own. I have a very close friend who went the sperm donor route, I have another friend who used a surrogate, and I, myself, delivered one biological son and adopted another.<BR/><BR/>Diversity, baby. That's what makes the world go round.<BR/><BR/>In the end, the most important thing is the child - is he/she loved? Are they happy? If so, nothing else matters.Going Comomdohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00641441621516976661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6909245715081220170.post-73042879542074746182008-07-21T15:43:00.000-05:002008-07-21T15:43:00.000-05:00i think zach is onto something! haha. that was hil...i think zach is onto something! haha. that was hilarious.Jodeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17426419160642970078noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6909245715081220170.post-72573568317882627442008-07-20T15:10:00.000-05:002008-07-20T15:10:00.000-05:00you cannot give without strings. when you give som...you cannot give without strings. when you give something, even if you say you don't expect anything material in return, you have just transferred power from one individual with resources to another without resources. sometimes to think you are not expecting something in return is worse than just expecting it. if you give, and the other person gives something back, you do not control the power in that situation - power has been equalized as best it can.<BR/><BR/>sometimes woman have the desire to carry a child, yes. and sometimes they don't. adopting is scary because, and i say this with sincerity, you never know what you're going to get. i would not spend $28,000 a month on baby making, but i also recognize it's because of my context that i won't. people in poverty question why we spend money on decorating homes, sporting games, hobbies. an extra $100 a year might save their child's life and we would rather have a nicer couch.<BR/><BR/>now...i say that to put it in context. i don't think the answer to the world's issues are rich people giving to poor people. i think that can be just as detrimental. instead of mission trips to africa to build an orphanage that cost thousands of dollars per person to get there, why not give those thousands of dollars to an institution fighting the reasons children are in orphanages in the first place?<BR/><BR/>but i do agree with you cara, at least these social questions are being questioned by people. that gives me more hope than anything.shannon paige guillothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08713173822543789971noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6909245715081220170.post-4289106127383642362008-07-20T14:26:00.000-05:002008-07-20T14:26:00.000-05:00People~It's a simple business transaction! They h...People~<BR/><BR/>It's a simple business transaction! They have something the couple wants and the couple has something they want! Like prostitution.Zachhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10408306968178830282noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6909245715081220170.post-71473699885785880822008-07-20T09:03:00.000-05:002008-07-20T09:03:00.000-05:00i don't know why, but i can relate to these women....i don't know why, but i can relate to these women. the comment you made about episode 2 explains the question in episode 1: why do couples go to great lengths and lots of money to have a biological child instead of adopting? the answer: something will always be missing. from seeing and hanging out with pregnant friends, you bond with that child while its in your womb... there is a biologic attachment to a mother and child that, despite separation, will always be there. so from the adopted mother's standpoint, you can provide all the child NEEDS and be there for the child in every way, but that biologic connection will never be there. for some women, never having that connection but still adopting a child is worse than not having a child in the first place. <BR/><BR/>and as far as the comment made that these women should "send them the money or help them in some way while expecting nothing in return" is idealistic and nieve. i think sometimes as christians we confuse our morals with the morals the world has. yes, these women in india need help, i see that. but if you feel so strongly about that, then save 25 cents a day and send your own money to these people. YOU withhold something you think you need and send that money to some organization or whatever. you can't be the conviction of the Holy Spirit. God has blessed my husband and i in many ways, and when He tells us to give, we give. but God must tell me to give before i will. otherwise, its done in vain. <BR/><BR/>good people can give, and do give, but we can't force them or expect them to. and not to expect anything in return is silly too. again, its a conviction, given by God, to give with no strings attached. so we can't expect this from anyone but of ourselves.Jodeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17426419160642970078noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6909245715081220170.post-51189978069900759982008-07-20T05:00:00.000-05:002008-07-20T05:00:00.000-05:00what upsets me the most about this is these people...what upsets me the most about this is these people saying they are rescuing these indian women out of poverty to justify what they are doing. if they really cared about these women, they would send them the money or help them in some way while expecting nothing in return. or maybe they could adopt one of the many children that are orphaned here in india and help them out that way.<BR/>i have 5 adopted cousins (2 from china, 3 from south america) and they are loved the same as any other member of our family. it wasn't weird or hard to adjsut to them being there at all. there are so many children in need of a home in this world i find it ridiculous to be spending tons of money to have someone else carry my baby.<BR/>but that's just me.katie johnsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02263510433706274146noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6909245715081220170.post-14862273965494564242008-07-20T00:51:00.000-05:002008-07-20T00:51:00.000-05:00There aren't really a lot of resources to link ado...There aren't really a lot of resources to link adoptive children with their biological parents, either, from what I understand. Newer generations of adopted kids have greater advantages in that area over older/closed adoptions but it's still difficult information to come by. In that case, one might make an argument that it was 'selfish' to give those kids up for adoption, knowing that it might create an identity handicap for them later in life. (note: I am not making that argument.)<BR/><BR/>Then again, I grew up with both my biological parents and I'm not sure who I am, either. When it comes to kids, having and raising them, there's really no way to predict the future. Two parents, single parent, grand-parents, adoptive parents, you just can't know how things will turn out. That said, making sure kids are loved and safe has GOT to be the first thing to consider. I guess all we can do is the best we can with the situation presented, try to make responsible decisions and go from there. <BR/><BR/>- Reflections of a faithful blog-stalkerrevbrunethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02434267163139153283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6909245715081220170.post-39121092917544214022008-07-19T19:38:00.000-05:002008-07-19T19:38:00.000-05:00There are a lot of things in this world that are d...There are a lot of things in this world that are difficult to understand. I think it would be impossible to understand the extreme desire a woman has to raise a child of her own. There are just somethings in life we have to leave up to others to decide, despite our personal convicitions . You can't force the idea of adoption on a woman /couple that clearly desires to carry and raise a child of their own. That would be a severe injustice towards the vary nature of what it means to be human.Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13677133382908636295noreply@blogger.com